I took a nasty revenge on my ex-boyfriend because he betrayed me. I felt extremely guilty afterwards and profusely apologized. However, I wasn’t forgiven. I felt extremely rejected, humiliated, and re-wounded all over again. Now I cannot seem to shake the feeling off. I cannot locate the feeling in my body. It’s only in my mind as an eternal loop of events. In the context of SBSM, how can I forgive myself and integrate it? I’ve done the healthy shame work, but how to stop with the toxic shame.
Call Tag: healthy aggression
I just saw massive jaw tension for the past 1.5 months. That is almost always connected to aggression.
I had a rather traumatizing pregnancy and birth and early postpartum period. And I am so troubled by the potential effect on my new baby. Although she seems fine, although I don’t know what to look for in babies, I know she is sensitive and suspect she’s affected deep down. I’m wondering what I could do to help her nervous system to heal or minimize the effects, especially while I’m still a big stress ball. Perhaps you have an idea with some of the program material. Any words of wisdom on this?
In training call five, Irene makes a point to grieve over lack of early childhood self-regulation and trauma and move on, grieve it and move on. I am feeling so stuck in the grieving vortex. I would love tips on how to close that chapter and move on from being angry at my parents
How can we get fear out of our body? Anger seems easy. Hit the pillow, squeeze the towel. But fear, one thing that comes to mind is to run short sprints. But what if my fear is of health issues? I’ve been dealing with some unexplained bone and joint pain and the idea to run also makes me afraid of injuring myself and ending up with new or worse pain. Just sitting with fear and taming it sometimes works but feels like it is only keeping it under the surface. I would like to move it out of my body
It’s my third round. I see more and more all the things I do and say to my kids because of my trauma, my reaction to them. But I can’t seem to change my way of behaving. The need to say things when I’m angry is so strong and I can see it’s hurting them. Any idea is how to stop myself. It seems like I react on autopilot.
Hi, Seth. I’ve noticed that eating food can sometimes stimulate a need to express or move. What is the nervous system explanation for this? Do you have any suggestions for managing my own needs to move, et cetera when eating in public where it isn’t necessarily appropriate to roll around on the floor or start retching, et cetera?
What to do when there’s a big fight? Like say, we do have a partner that we’re close with, it’s going well, but there’s a big blow up, there’s a big fight. In the example they gave, maybe even something got smashed. No one got hurt, but there was some explosiveness or something. What to do in situations like that? How to come back together?
What to do if you’re in a situation like a single mom who has kids and you’re trying to do this work and you don’t have the break that that partner can come in and give you
“How to develop a solid regular daily practice? First round, I reached lab six, practicing all the exercises pretty well, and later carried on to the end randomly, but not fully. Second round, much harder. I had less adherence to practice, less progression, probably due to the fairly sudden death of my sister in February.” Sure. Oh yeah. Any big shock that comes in could totally do that. “Third round seems even harder. Have not got very far with exercises or labs generally, though I listen to all the live sessions. I know this is the way forward, but the lack of attention in regular practice seems to be increasing.”