Now, a final broad theme was all about sex.
Call Tag: disgust
Choices about sexual partners. How do I work with this?
Does freeze lift all at once or in layers?
I took a nasty revenge on my ex-boyfriend because he betrayed me. I felt extremely guilty afterwards and profusely apologized. However, I wasn’t forgiven. I felt extremely rejected, humiliated, and re-wounded all over again. Now I cannot seem to shake the feeling off. I cannot locate the feeling in my body. It’s only in my mind as an eternal loop of events. In the context of SBSM, how can I forgive myself and integrate it? I’ve done the healthy shame work, but how to stop with the toxic shame.
My codependent friend and roomie shares her relationship problems with me. If I engage or share anything personal, it inevitably turns into unqualified mutual therapy. This used to feel like care and bonding to me, but now it disgusts me. I become enmeshed and dysregulated for days or weeks. Months ago, I told her I couldn’t discuss her problems anymore and I enjoyed a respite. But with her recent breakup, this pattern has resurfaced. I can’t afford to engage like this anymore. What is healthy intimacy?
So, many questions to do with different things around shame and disgust. A couple things that were in common with these questions were people talking about experiencing tension in the gut related to shame or humiliation. One who even had gastritis following an incident where they felt really humiliated.
And, then the last thing here, bodywork.
All right. Disgust, aggression, gagging. So, there’s many questions about the, “Ugh,” sort of gagging reflex connected to strong emotion, connected to aggression, connected to disgust.
All right. So lots of questions about what to do with activation. Again there’s too many for me to answer individually. So I want to talk in general about what to do with activation when it shows up.
In today’s call, Irene gives the example of stubbing her toe and how to work through that in body orienting. Can you please give an example of something happening more emotional than physical and how to work through that in the body? For example, getting into an argument with a spouse or other family member. I feel very triggered by things my spouse says or does, and I know it’s because of my dysregulated nervous system, so I’d like some tips on how to recognize that and release the ball from the pool.