In a previous Q&A on being triggered by watching the news you said to differentiate between new grief from the news and our own stored grief being released. I can’t tell when grief is from current, minor, sad things in my life or old unprocessed grief. I have tears, my chest and belly squeezes till I run out of air. I gasp and this repeats until it stops and then I’m numb. How can I tell if I’m just blowing up at minor things and never touching the old stuff?
Call Tag: differentiate
Irene declares that healing is extremely challenged by life within a toxic system or environment. Will you speak about this in the context of toxic civilization we all seem to be immersed in and the threat to safety, like climate disruption? These things seem to be elephants in the room. They certainly affect me as the underlying rumble of threat I cannot manage or escape. How do I work within this, within a healing framework?
How to become more adept at differentiating between a release versus being triggered? Maybe sometimes it’s a bit of both. It seems easier for me to tell when it’s a physical release, whereas emotional releases are sometimes more obscure which leads to another question. Is there an element of patiently waiting it out with this work? What comes to mind for me is Irene’s story about the rashes that she endured. Sometimes the work is just to be in the experience. What are your thoughts?
In today’s call, Irene gives the example of stubbing her toe and how to work through that in body orienting. Can you please give an example of something happening more emotional than physical and how to work through that in the body? For example, getting into an argument with a spouse or other family member. I feel very triggered by things my spouse says or does, and I know it’s because of my dysregulated nervous system, so I’d like some tips on how to recognize that and release the ball from the pool.
Your answer to my question last round made me realize deserving wasn’t my issue. So this was talking about do we deserve to heal? Do we feel like we deserve to heal? “Strong survival strategies got me to my seventh decade.
How can I tell the difference between a regression and healing and having stuff arise? I did SBSM in March and will still find myself in days of dysregulation that I would call manic or anxiety states. Most recently because of a potential new relationship starting. Is it normal to have lows stay as low as they have been with longer times of better regulation in between? When low, I worry that I’ve undone all my healing work, or I’m guilty of not having done enough. Do you have any advice?