Now, a final broad theme was all about sex.
Call Tag: connection
Choices about sexual partners. How do I work with this?
I’m 51 and in a loving relationship for 11 years. I’ve since the start, had my nervous system going into a hypervigilant mode around my partner’s involvement with his ex and his kids, which feels like a big threat to my internal safety. It’s all above board in doing the right thing from his part. I think I’ve got complex PTSD from being exposed to this regularly. I was born breached with hip joints not developed properly and was put into a contraption for a few early weeks and I never cried and I slept a lot and I wasn’t interested in feeding. Freeze? Any advice?
Someone was asking actually about my relationship with Irene and how to navigate a relationship where there’s a lot of love and connection and interest and also triggers and things getting stirred up. And really that can go one of two ways
What could a possible connection be between vaginismus…” That’s hard to pronounce. Constriction of the vagina when there tries to be penetration, essentially is what that is. “And then around four years of interstitial cystitis. What’s the connection between these things? The interstitial cystitis has resolved, but vaginismus has not. No trauma that comes to mind as a possible connection, although I’m realizing these issues are not due to bad luck or chance.” No. “Is there any advice you can give me, a little insight as to what could be going on?
“I frequently drop into these alone, disconnected states and I’m not really aware of any trigger to it. Suddenly out of the blue I land in this feeling of loneliness and disconnection. I’m wondering your thoughts about how best to work with this. I tend to label this as a little girl, about an abandoned, alone state, and I connect with her and try to soothe her, as in parts work. But that is putting a story to it.”
And, then the last thing here, bodywork.
Let’s see. Anything else? So, one thing is if someone is in chronic pain, this can be much more difficult. Or if there is an injury, someone asked about having a concussion
Can you please talk about working with resistance? I’ve read and watched Irene’s articles and videos on resistance several times, but it would help to hear more about it. For example, I had a breakthrough where for about a week I finally could feel the ground under me with my body. And not just from the perspective of noticing it with my mind, but now my system is totally resisting doing more of that. How do I feel into the resistance?
Will improved nervous system regulation help alleviate social anxiety and naturally make it easier to socially engage with people?