My daughter was born at the start of COVID when stress was high and I was having career uncertainty. I remember I freaked out when she was born, and recently through SBSM, I realized how this moment was kind of a stored survival stress that made me see parenting as scary and overwhelming. Any tips on how to work on fully releasing that so I can shift my relationship with parenting? I recently started tapping into the joy of parenting after those insights, and I want to experience this fully.
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What about a healthy expression, or healthy aggression, or working with the activation, if you’re in a situation with chronic fatigue, if you have CFS? You can’t do a lot of mobilization.
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I’m 51 and in a loving relationship for 11 years. I’ve since the start, had my nervous system going into a hypervigilant mode around my partner’s involvement with his ex and his kids, which feels like a big threat to my internal safety. It’s all above board in doing the right thing from his part. I think I’ve got complex PTSD from being exposed to this regularly. I was born breached with hip joints not developed properly and was put into a contraption for a few early weeks and I never cried and I slept a lot and I wasn’t interested in feeding. Freeze? Any advice?
During SBSM I’m noticing bracing patterns specifically in my gut, which I consciously then release. I take dual prokinetics for my bowel to work, and I wondered if this issue could be a result of these bracing patterns. How does bracing relate to dysregulation? Can you have one without the other? A few questions here. Can the issue be the result of bracing patterns? Meaning, digestion problems, can they result from bracing patterns?
When I was a baby, I wore a harness that pushed my femurs into the pelvis to form hip sockets.” So if you’re online, if you can just clarify for me in the chat, it sounds like what you’re saying is you were born with some kind of physical abnormality, that the doctors had the impression they needed to use some kind of corrective harness that helped the femurs go up into the pelvis and form hip sockets. Hip dysplasia. Okay, great. Thanks. Yeah, so I just wanted to be clear on that. “So my mother said she knew I got used to it because I stopped crying after a week. Sounds like I went into freeze.” You betcha. Oh yeah. “I have had CFS for the past 20 years, I’m now 51, an extreme heaviness in my legs, perhaps from being strapped into the harness for months.” Yeah. Yep. That is very likely. “I completed SBSM 11, but the chronic fatigue and heaviness have not budged. Any specific neurosensory lessons I can focus on to try and process this old pain?
I have pre-verbal trauma and I’m halfway through SBSM, having started in April and taken my time. I find with every lab I burp excessively during the process and not at any other time. Is this a release of storage survival stress that will resolve on its own, or a coping mechanism? And does it mean that I need to slow down even more with the process?