My kids activate me or are traumatized themselves which stirs up my own trauma, which makes healing much more difficult. How can I calm myself down and not be so triggered by them, and how can I help them?
Unfortunately, it’s a plain fact that healing one’s own trauma becomes much more complex when one has children. For one, anything unresolved in us from our own childhood will usually get activated by our children, and often those layers correspond with our kid’s age – so we may be plunged into our early/developmental trauma when [...]