Exploring the pendulating exercise, I realized for me, pleasant is the absence of pain. Maybe numbness and constriction is over coupled with safety. Pain told me that if it were absent, I would be off ignoring and pushing the body until it hurt. On a walk, struck by the beauty of the light on the leaves, I stood wondering where the sensation, the charge of that pleasure was in my body. Watching a deer, I felt joy, but still couldn’t find sensation. Is pleasure expansion? How to wake pleasure as an internal resource.

Exploring the pendulating exercise, I realized for me, pleasant is the absence of pain. Maybe numbness and constriction is over coupled with safety. Pain told me that if it were absent, I would be off ignoring and pushing the body until it hurt. On a walk, struck by the beauty of the light on the leaves, I stood wondering where the sensation, the charge of that pleasure was in my body. Watching a deer, I felt joy, but still couldn’t find sensation. Is pleasure expansion? How to wake pleasure as an internal resource.oddjar2024-08-29T17:10:08-07:00

It’s my third round. I see more and more all the things I do and say to my kids because of my trauma, my reaction to them. But I can’t seem to change my way of behaving. The need to say things when I’m angry is so strong and I can see it’s hurting them. Any idea is how to stop myself. It seems like I react on autopilot.

It’s my third round. I see more and more all the things I do and say to my kids because of my trauma, my reaction to them. But I can’t seem to change my way of behaving. The need to say things when I’m angry is so strong and I can see it’s hurting them. Any idea is how to stop myself. It seems like I react on autopilot.oddjar2024-08-29T17:10:08-07:00

Irene declares that healing is extremely challenged by life within a toxic system or environment. Will you speak about this in the context of toxic civilization we all seem to be immersed in and the threat to safety, like climate disruption? These things seem to be elephants in the room. They certainly affect me as the underlying rumble of threat I cannot manage or escape. How do I work within this, within a healing framework?

Irene declares that healing is extremely challenged by life within a toxic system or environment. Will you speak about this in the context of toxic civilization we all seem to be immersed in and the threat to safety, like climate disruption? These things seem to be elephants in the room. They certainly affect me as the underlying rumble of threat I cannot manage or escape. How do I work within this, within a healing framework?oddjar2024-08-29T17:10:08-07:00

You mentioned homeschooling is better than public school from a nervous system perspective. Can you explain what’s wrong with public school and what should be done to homeschool in a healthy way apart from doing the SBSM work as a parent and or teacher?

You mentioned homeschooling is better than public school from a nervous system perspective. Can you explain what’s wrong with public school and what should be done to homeschool in a healthy way apart from doing the SBSM work as a parent and or teacher?oddjar2024-08-29T17:10:08-07:00

I am an entrepreneur and unhappy with my work. There is not much that makes me happy or it only feels good for a short period of time. It’s the story of my life. I’ve done several very different studies, different jobs, and many different projects as an entrepreneur. I never feel long term joy connected to anything I do. What can I do to find out what makes me happy and fulfilled and to not get stuck and bored again over and over? And how can I react to feeling stuck when it happens?

I am an entrepreneur and unhappy with my work. There is not much that makes me happy or it only feels good for a short period of time. It’s the story of my life. I’ve done several very different studies, different jobs, and many different projects as an entrepreneur. I never feel long term joy connected to anything I do.What can I do to find out what makes me happy and fulfilled and to not get stuck and bored again over and over? And how can I react to feeling stuck when it happens?oddjar2024-08-29T17:10:08-07:00

Self assaulting shame versus personal responsibility. Example. How can I truly be okay with… I started binge eating because I couldn’t handle the feelings toward my parents and not feel, oh my God, I was so pathetic to not be able to simply say what I wanted and I had to resort to chocolate or I have anxiety issues. And while I’m okay with not blaming my parents for never making me feel safe, it leads to feeling I was so stupid to think that they hated me when they loved me, but were not able to give me what I needed.

Self assaulting shame versus personal responsibility. Example. How can I truly be okay with… I started binge eating because I couldn’t handle the feelings toward my parents and not feel, oh my God, I was so pathetic to not be able to simply say what I wanted and I had to resort to chocolate or I have anxiety issues. And while I’m okay with not blaming my parents for never making me feel safe, it leads to feeling I was so stupid to think that they hated me when they loved me, but were not able to give me what I needed.oddjar2024-08-29T17:10:08-07:00

How can we get fear out of our body? Anger seems easy. Hit the pillow, squeeze the towel. But fear, one thing that comes to mind is to run short sprints. But what if my fear is of health issues? I’ve been dealing with some unexplained bone and joint pain and the idea to run also makes me afraid of injuring myself and ending up with new or worse pain. Just sitting with fear and taming it sometimes works but feels like it is only keeping it under the surface. I would like to move it out of my body

How can we get fear out of our body? Anger seems easy. Hit the pillow, squeeze the towel. But fear, one thing that comes to mind is to run short sprints. But what if my fear is of health issues? I’ve been dealing with some unexplained bone and joint pain and the idea to run also makes me afraid of injuring myself and ending up with new or worse pain. Just sitting with fear and taming it sometimes works but feels like it is only keeping it under the surface. I would like to move it out of my bodyoddjar2024-08-29T17:10:08-07:00

While orienting, I’ve noticed that I control my breath and gulp. Today, my body shook and I hyperventilated. I noticed a metallic taste in my mouth, tingling in my hands and feet. I wailed and I wanted to scream, but I didn’t want to frighten my neighbors. This wasn’t a panic attack. I sensed when I needed to stop in order to continue feeling safe. How can I tell if this was just winding myself up or a genuine release of old stress seeking to come out? Have I made things worse by not screaming?

While orienting, I’ve noticed that I control my breath and gulp. Today, my body shook and I hyperventilated. I noticed a metallic taste in my mouth, tingling in my hands and feet. I wailed and I wanted to scream, but I didn’t want to frighten my neighbors. This wasn’t a panic attack. I sensed when I needed to stop in order to continue feeling safe. How can I tell if this was just winding myself up or a genuine release of old stress seeking to come out? Have I made things worse by not screaming?oddjar2024-08-29T17:10:08-07:00

I have an extensive amount of dental trauma starting at age two. I now have a good dentist and a hygienist, but my mouth still feels like a war zone. And anyone doing work in my mouth feels incredibly violating. I had a cleaning last week and I can still feel the excess tension I’m carrying in my head, neck, and face from that experience. Do you have any suggestions on how I can release the survival stress after dental work or reduce the activation during procedures?

I have an extensive amount of dental trauma starting at age two. I now have a good dentist and a hygienist, but my mouth still feels like a war zone. And anyone doing work in my mouth feels incredibly violating. I had a cleaning last week and I can still feel the excess tension I’m carrying in my head, neck, and face from that experience. Do you have any suggestions on how I can release the survival stress after dental work or reduce the activation during procedures?oddjar2024-08-29T17:10:08-07:00

How to become more adept at differentiating between a release versus being triggered? Maybe sometimes it’s a bit of both. It seems easier for me to tell when it’s a physical release, whereas emotional releases are sometimes more obscure which leads to another question. Is there an element of patiently waiting it out with this work? What comes to mind for me is Irene’s story about the rashes that she endured. Sometimes the work is just to be in the experience. What are your thoughts?

How to become more adept at differentiating between a release versus being triggered? Maybe sometimes it’s a bit of both. It seems easier for me to tell when it’s a physical release, whereas emotional releases are sometimes more obscure which leads to another question. Is there an element of patiently waiting it out with this work? What comes to mind for me is Irene’s story about the rashes that she endured. Sometimes the work is just to be in the experience. What are your thoughts?oddjar2024-08-29T17:10:08-07:00