I took a nasty revenge on my ex-boyfriend because he betrayed me. I felt extremely guilty afterwards and profusely apologized. However, I wasn’t forgiven. I felt extremely rejected, humiliated, and re-wounded all over again. Now I cannot seem to shake the feeling off. I cannot locate the feeling in my body. It’s only in my mind as an eternal loop of events. In the context of SBSM, how can I forgive myself and integrate it? I’ve done the healthy shame work, but how to stop with the toxic shame.

I took a nasty revenge on my ex-boyfriend because he betrayed me. I felt extremely guilty afterwards and profusely apologized. However, I wasn’t forgiven. I felt extremely rejected, humiliated, and re-wounded all over again. Now I cannot seem to shake the feeling off. I cannot locate the feeling in my body. It’s only in my mind as an eternal loop of events. In the context of SBSM, how can I forgive myself and integrate it? I’ve done the healthy shame work, but how to stop with the toxic shame.2024-08-29T17:19:02-07:00

I noticed my mom and myself playing out a pattern of going into complaining, emphasizing hardships, the obstacles in life, et cetera. My mom does it with me and I do it as well in other relationships. If they feel sorry for me, then they will take care of me. If I am doing okay, then there will be no attention, love and safety, but too much responsibility being asked of.

I noticed my mom and myself playing out a pattern of going into complaining, emphasizing hardships, the obstacles in life, et cetera. My mom does it with me and I do it as well in other relationships. If they feel sorry for me, then they will take care of me. If I am doing okay, then there will be no attention, love and safety, but too much responsibility being asked of.2024-08-29T17:19:02-07:00

Hey Seth, I’m struggling to feel anything. I hear a lot of people mentioning the reactions they’re having. This is not my experience. Yesterday I went for a Thai massage and never experienced this before. It was very painful. It was very interesting though, as the lady said that my body was stuck, yes, and it needs to thaw out. I’m confused as to whether I should be doing this again or not. Is it forcing the body to move out of freeze?

Hey Seth, I’m struggling to feel anything. I hear a lot of people mentioning the reactions they’re having. This is not my experience. Yesterday I went for a Thai massage and never experienced this before. It was very painful. It was very interesting though, as the lady said that my body was stuck, yes, and it needs to thaw out. I’m confused as to whether I should be doing this again or not. Is it forcing the body to move out of freeze?2024-08-29T17:19:02-07:00

“I have a serious procrastination problem bordering on ergophobia. When I start working, I become activated. My heart rate increases, I have tension in my head, my mind becomes constricted, making it tough and unpleasant to work and write. However, I know that when my mind is relaxed and without fear, I can do good work. I like working, but I do not know how to get to that state. Please advise

“I have a serious procrastination problem bordering on ergophobia. When I start working, I become activated. My heart rate increases, I have tension in my head, my mind becomes constricted, making it tough and unpleasant to work and write. However, I know that when my mind is relaxed and without fear, I can do good work. I like working, but I do not know how to get to that state. Please advise2024-08-29T17:19:02-07:00

I was described by a family friend as very loving at age two, but then I bullied a child at age five and I was suicidal at age seven, downhill from there and associated for 40 plus years. Overall more overt sympathetic activation. When I think of people, I see images of me as a carcass being picked at, I feel enraged when people need anything from me as it feels they’re going to suck the life out of me. I want cry and leave me the F alone. Engaging in healthy aggression and feeling good releases, yet it’s not reducing the terror. Suggestions.

I was described by a family friend as very loving at age two, but then I bullied a child at age five and I was suicidal at age seven, downhill from there and associated for 40 plus years. Overall more overt sympathetic activation. When I think of people, I see images of me as a carcass being picked at, I feel enraged when people need anything from me as it feels they’re going to suck the life out of me. I want cry and leave me the F alone. Engaging in healthy aggression and feeling good releases, yet it’s not reducing the terror. Suggestions.2024-08-29T17:19:02-07:00

I’ve got two sleep questions. Could sleep apnea be caused by trauma and due to a dysregulated nervous system? Apparently I’m snoring and I stop breathing, but I still need to confirm this. And then background, I’ve got general anxiety, panic attacks and sleeping issues since many years. Waking up around 4:00 AM and not being able to fall asleep again. I remember your advice to get up and to get rid of the energy, but I’m still just sleepy and my mind is awake. Any advice?

I’ve got two sleep questions. Could sleep apnea be caused by trauma and due to a dysregulated nervous system? Apparently I’m snoring and I stop breathing, but I still need to confirm this. And then background, I’ve got general anxiety, panic attacks and sleeping issues since many years. Waking up around 4:00 AM and not being able to fall asleep again. I remember your advice to get up and to get rid of the energy, but I’m still just sleepy and my mind is awake. Any advice?2024-08-29T17:19:02-07:00

I’m curious about what’s going on from an SBSM perspective. I’m 26 and I’ve had this thing since I was 19, at least, where my joints make snapping and popping sounds. I’m quite flexible. My pelvis and hips seem to come unaligned frequently. I feel I need to make this popping happen in my joints quite often, to realign. Movement feels great but doesn’t seem to lessen this. I want to cultivate balance and wellness. Curious about what might be happening.

I’m curious about what’s going on from an SBSM perspective. I’m 26 and I’ve had this thing since I was 19, at least, where my joints make snapping and popping sounds. I’m quite flexible. My pelvis and hips seem to come unaligned frequently. I feel I need to make this popping happen in my joints quite often, to realign. Movement feels great but doesn’t seem to lessen this. I want to cultivate balance and wellness. Curious about what might be happening.2024-08-29T17:19:02-07:00

Whenever I do these exercises on the floor like rolling the head, I feel vertigo, sort of a high floating feeling of disorientation, but not a full vertigo, which I have had once. It also happens every time I get a massage or I’m on a chiropractic table and get up. What’s this about?”

Whenever I do these exercises on the floor like rolling the head, I feel vertigo, sort of a high floating feeling of disorientation, but not a full vertigo, which I have had once. It also happens every time I get a massage or I’m on a chiropractic table and get up. What’s this about?”2024-08-29T17:19:02-07:00

“The annihilation discussion touched me deeply.” Assume you’re talking about the training call. “I’ve done a great deal of healing work with my parents. I don’t feel anger towards them now. I had pre-birth trauma, early developmental trauma. It’s hard to access anger from that age. However, I feel extreme anger towards my parents’ fundamental religious beliefs and the church. This feels lifetime’s old and is always at the surface. Can the annihilation exercises be done towards a large organization or belief system?

“The annihilation discussion touched me deeply.” Assume you’re talking about the training call. “I’ve done a great deal of healing work with my parents. I don’t feel anger towards them now. I had pre-birth trauma, early developmental trauma. It’s hard to access anger from that age. However, I feel extreme anger towards my parents’ fundamental religious beliefs and the church. This feels lifetime’s old and is always at the surface. Can the annihilation exercises be done towards a large organization or belief system?2024-08-29T17:19:02-07:00

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