Something my trauma patterns have a hard time doing is making decisions. I either freeze up and stay stagnant, or I have to adrenalize myself forward and bypass the fear. Especially if it’s a bigger decision, like finding a way to make money long term, or where to live for a couple months. I’m curious, when there’s still trauma present, how can we make aligned decisions? Or is it more about not getting hung up on making the right decisions, and just living our life to the best of our ability?oddjar2024-08-29T16:49:10-07:00
I’m having issues with identifying sensations, emotions, and feelings. Both when I’m dysregulated and when I’m doing the neurosensory exercises. I did think I was getting more regulated, but now feel I’ve gotten more dysregulated. Could you please suggest reasons for not being able to identify these? And how can I make progress? It feels like I’m just not getting it at all. I find I’m making guesses to what these sensations or feelings are, and then I later realize that that wasn’t right.oddjar2024-08-29T16:49:10-07:00
“I found the basic joints exercise helpful and even pleasant to do, possibly because it took my attention away from the deep seeded tension in my face and throat, in particular. My breathing feels constrained by the chronic tension in my throat in an ingrained pattern of shallow breathing, holding my breath for no apparent reason. What are some ways to begin working on relaxing the muscles in the throat to breathe and talk more freely?”oddjar2024-08-29T16:49:10-07:00
Yesterday I felt, again, into the trap of using my little regained energy and pushing through things without noticing my body. At the end of the day, I felt so hyper when I tried to sit down and get in touch with my body. I felt like fleeing and looking for distractions as the sensations were so uncomfortable. Tightness in the chest, throat, heart area. Having a history of physical and emotional abuse, I noticed that is how I usually go through every single day. Any recommendations to work with that?”oddjar2024-08-29T16:49:10-07:00
“As I’m able to track my sensations and emotions, I notice it’s easier to cry. To experience sadness and fear, as opposed to anger. And I’m able to rationalize some for the people that have hurt me.” That sounds like maybe you can understand where they were coming from, kind of deal. “They say hurt is under anger, and I don’t want to bypass that emotion altogether.”oddjar2024-08-29T16:49:10-07:00
Someone asked about the relationship of joints with nervous system work. Is there correlation between having issues with the joints and nervous system dysregulation?oddjar2024-08-29T16:49:10-07:00
I’ve been doing this work for a little while, and recently have noticed a distinct feeling that I’m dying, like my organs are dying. It’s not a sensation per se. It’s more a quality and a thought of ‘I’m dying.’ I’m working on building capacity to be with this as it’s still a little frightening. Have you heard of this before?oddjar2024-08-29T16:49:10-07:00
I have had a desire since I started working on myself, maybe before, to quit my job and work in a retail admin position somewhere. There is something about a physical job or something with minimal responsibility that appeals to me. Is this an impulse I need to follow or is it a flight response? I found it very hard to work full time my entire life so far, and found this hard in itself.oddjar2024-08-29T16:49:10-07:00
Why? Why is this happening? What does it mean? What does it all mean? I’ve had a few questions come in that are sort of asking about a symptom or a sensation they were having, and the question was why is this happening? What does it mean?oddjar2024-08-29T16:48:22-07:00
