“I learned early on to shut down, hold back the anger and tears that result in resentment and grudge holding,” which I assume you mean from your caregivers. The caregivers would resent you, they’d hold a grudge if you showed your anger or your tears. So you learned, your system learned, to shut down. “I’m now observing that when I fall into the shutdown, there’s stubbornness. I’ll hold onto the shutdown for as long as I can, determined to win by not coming out of this state. And any advice for this stubborn, scared part of me to move up and out would be appreciated.”

“I learned early on to shut down, hold back the anger and tears that result in resentment and grudge holding,” which I assume you mean from your caregivers. The caregivers would resent you, they’d hold a grudge if you showed your anger or your tears. So you learned, your system learned, to shut down. “I’m now observing that when I fall into the shutdown, there’s stubbornness. I’ll hold onto the shutdown for as long as I can, determined to win by not coming out of this state. And any advice for this stubborn, scared part of me to move up and out would be appreciated.”2024-08-29T16:54:48-07:00

“So how do you recommend dealing with insomnia, in the moment? I typically go through a week-long spurt where I can’t fall asleep until morning hours. Then I’ll get a couple weeks of regular sleep until the insomnia repeats itself. It’s very mental for me, and I’m not sure how to interrupt this loop. I have a 1.5 year old to take care of, so I need some rest. What can I do when it’s 2:00 AM and I’m panicking about sleep?”

“So how do you recommend dealing with insomnia, in the moment? I typically go through a week-long spurt where I can’t fall asleep until morning hours. Then I’ll get a couple weeks of regular sleep until the insomnia repeats itself. It’s very mental for me, and I’m not sure how to interrupt this loop. I have a 1.5 year old to take care of, so I need some rest. What can I do when it’s 2:00 AM and I’m panicking about sleep?”2024-08-29T16:54:48-07:00

“I’m 48. Had chronic fatigue for 25 years, mental health issues since 11. Hypersensitive to chemicals, allergens, shock and childhood trauma, chronic stress, et cetera. I sat outside today with my bare feet on the grass for 30 minutes and did the practice of orienting. Irene said to look for tension in the pelvis, and I did notice a sensation of holding. I breathed to see if it would release and it did. I laughed and then cried. Then all afternoon, I had a sympathetic activation I could not discharge. What’s going on here?”

“I’m 48. Had chronic fatigue for 25 years, mental health issues since 11. Hypersensitive to chemicals, allergens, shock and childhood trauma, chronic stress, et cetera. I sat outside today with my bare feet on the grass for 30 minutes and did the practice of orienting. Irene said to look for tension in the pelvis, and I did notice a sensation of holding. I breathed to see if it would release and it did. I laughed and then cried. Then all afternoon, I had a sympathetic activation I could not discharge. What’s going on here?”2024-08-29T16:54:48-07:00

“Is there anything specific I can do for tightness in my neck that keeps occurring with constriction only on the right side? It occurred a couple of minutes into the kidney practice today, followed by a sense of panic rising. I paused, oriented, shifted attention between my neck and safety in my body.”

“Is there anything specific I can do for tightness in my neck that keeps occurring with constriction only on the right side? It occurred a couple of minutes into the kidney practice today, followed by a sense of panic rising. I paused, oriented, shifted attention between my neck and safety in my body.”2024-08-29T16:54:48-07:00

“Does connecting with the body in an environment really get to feel better? Biology of stress number five, the slide on the things to build capacity. Doing these things exhausts me. It feels like so much work. It feels boring. It actually inhibits my ability to do a lot of stuff that my body does do automatically on autopilot. I have to go back into my head and thoughts to rest, to get a break in my head. It feels like relief and ease connecting with the environment is exhausting.”

“Does connecting with the body in an environment really get to feel better? Biology of stress number five, the slide on the things to build capacity. Doing these things exhausts me. It feels like so much work. It feels boring. It actually inhibits my ability to do a lot of stuff that my body does do automatically on autopilot. I have to go back into my head and thoughts to rest, to get a break in my head. It feels like relief and ease connecting with the environment is exhausting.”2024-08-29T16:54:48-07:00

“I frequently drop into these alone, disconnected states and I’m not really aware of any trigger to it. Suddenly out of the blue I land in this feeling of loneliness and disconnection. I’m wondering your thoughts about how best to work with this. I tend to label this as a little girl, about an abandoned, alone state, and I connect with her and try to soothe her, as in parts work. But that is putting a story to it.”

“I frequently drop into these alone, disconnected states and I’m not really aware of any trigger to it. Suddenly out of the blue I land in this feeling of loneliness and disconnection. I’m wondering your thoughts about how best to work with this. I tend to label this as a little girl, about an abandoned, alone state, and I connect with her and try to soothe her, as in parts work. But that is putting a story to it.”2024-08-29T16:54:48-07:00

“Irene had a great interview at the Sleep Super conference. She mentioned the low tone dorsal for rest digest and the high dorsal tone, which is freeze, and the sympathetic system activated at the same time. I’m a bit confused about high and low tone dorsal. Is this the same as high and low vagus tone? And I have heard that you should have a high vagus tone because then you are more balanced. Doesn’t a high vagus tone that is good contradicts the high dorsal tone, which is bad?”

“Irene had a great interview at the Sleep Super conference. She mentioned the low tone dorsal for rest digest and the high dorsal tone, which is freeze, and the sympathetic system activated at the same time. I’m a bit confused about high and low tone dorsal. Is this the same as high and low vagus tone? And I have heard that you should have a high vagus tone because then you are more balanced. Doesn’t a high vagus tone that is good contradicts the high dorsal tone, which is bad?”2024-08-29T16:54:48-07:00

“How to develop a solid regular daily practice? First round, I reached lab six, practicing all the exercises pretty well, and later carried on to the end randomly, but not fully. Second round, much harder. I had less adherence to practice, less progression, probably due to the fairly sudden death of my sister in February.” Sure. Oh yeah. Any big shock that comes in could totally do that. “Third round seems even harder. Have not got very far with exercises or labs generally, though I listen to all the live sessions. I know this is the way forward, but the lack of attention in regular practice seems to be increasing.”

“How to develop a solid regular daily practice? First round, I reached lab six, practicing all the exercises pretty well, and later carried on to the end randomly, but not fully. Second round, much harder. I had less adherence to practice, less progression, probably due to the fairly sudden death of my sister in February.” Sure. Oh yeah. Any big shock that comes in could totally do that. “Third round seems even harder. Have not got very far with exercises or labs generally, though I listen to all the live sessions. I know this is the way forward, but the lack of attention in regular practice seems to be increasing.”2024-08-29T16:54:48-07:00

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