What to do when there’s a big fight? Like say, we do have a partner that we’re close with, it’s going well, but there’s a big blow up, there’s a big fight. In the example they gave, maybe even something got smashed. No one got hurt, but there was some explosiveness or something. What to do in situations like that? How to come back together?oddjar2024-08-29T17:00:14-07:00
I need guidance for what to do after I attend to what arises with all my attention, presence, connection, movement, sounds, et cetera, and feel, and I reach my limit, but the sensations and the body remain very loud. All my resources and activities aren’t enough to soothe or get the break and space I need from the loudness. The intensity of the distressing internal physical sensations feel like they continue and it feels like there’s more work to do, but there’s an overload too. So I feel caught in a high distress with these two as the only options.oddjar2024-08-29T17:00:14-07:00
I’m having trouble staying with the sensations in my body. A lot of fear comes up when I do this. There must be something wrong with me. The start of a disease or a health concern. I suspect this is related to preverbal trauma and just not feeling safe in my body. Do you have any suggestions on how to deal with this?oddjar2024-08-29T17:00:14-07:00
I was telling somebody of this work the other day, and they responded that if you’re able to control your thoughts and your mind, you would never experience any stress.” Oh, wouldn’t that be nice? “It’s all about perception. It turned into an argument about what comes first, thoughts or emotions. I just wanted to hear your opinion on this matter. Could you control your stress by just controlling your attitude to any given situation?oddjar2024-08-29T17:00:14-07:00
I can’t remember ever not having been stuck in functional freeze. So my question is, I’m interested in a lot of things, but my brain never comes up with questions. I feel a deeper stirring inside of wanting to know more, but with no idea of what or how to ask. It seems my brain is blocked and there’s also fear. Fear of being seen, heard, judged or attacked for saying something. Do you have any suggestions for breaking free from this pattern?oddjar2024-08-29T17:00:14-07:00
What could a possible connection be between vaginismus…” That’s hard to pronounce. Constriction of the vagina when there tries to be penetration, essentially is what that is. “And then around four years of interstitial cystitis. What’s the connection between these things? The interstitial cystitis has resolved, but vaginismus has not. No trauma that comes to mind as a possible connection, although I’m realizing these issues are not due to bad luck or chance.” No. “Is there any advice you can give me, a little insight as to what could be going on?oddjar2024-08-29T17:00:14-07:00
Can I please have a quick demo of the hand placement for the holding of the shoulder diaphragm? I imagine I understand the directive, but I find it uncomfortable, the bent arm, and unsustainable for more than a few seconds unless I support the bent arm with pillows, which seems daft.oddjar2024-08-29T17:00:14-07:00